Summary: Envision a graph with two main variables - Ability and Likability. High performers who have high likability are nearly unstoppable. Where are you on the graph? This graph is a living document and your future actions can, in fact, move in a positive direction.
When other people see you approaching, what is their initial and internal response? Are they thrilled to see you, knowing THEIR tank will be filled by being around you? Or are they bracing themselves for your negative and pessimistic attitude. Are you a VEP, a Very Encouraging Person, or are you a VDP, a Very Draining Person? If you want people to “GO ALONG” with you and your ideas, you need to “GET ALONG” with others.
I want you to envision a graph - the two main variables are: Ability and Likability. Some people have Low Ability and Low Likability. Not only are they a poor producer, they cause personnel problems. Some people have Low Ability but have High Likability. Likeability goes a long way. However, there comes a breaking point when someone’s inability to move the mission trumps their likable personal qualities. Then we have people who have High Ability and yet they have dangerously Low Likability. High performers often can be challenging to be around. Accomplishment is important, but people skills matter as well.
And yet there is one group remaining. There are those with High Ability and yet they also have High Likability. High performers who have high likability are nearly unstoppable. Where are you on the graph? Where would your peers place you on the graph? Here is the good news: This graph is a living document and your future actions can, in fact, move in a positive direction.